Overwhelmed By Clutter?

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Clutter and Hoarding Self-Help Support Meetings

Every Monday 7:00pm – 8:30pm (except Holiday Mondays)

             The Parkview Bldg – 100 Valley Ave – 2nd Floor Activity Room

                                                    Pleasanton, CA                                                

(across from Richert “Ace Hardware” Lumber Company)

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No Meeting on the following 2018 Holiday Mondays 

 Sep 3, Oct 8, Nov 12

Why It’s Best to Start Small (and How to Start)

January 3, 2018 by Carmen Klassen

Have you ever had a time (or many times) when you decide that you’re going to start getting organized, or getting rid of things and you go big? You take everything out of a closet, or you empty your whole fridge, or you start sorting everything in the livingroom…And then you get stuck when you come across something that brings up a lot of emotions. Or you start to feel so exhausted. Or your partner comes in and makes a really unhelpful statement. In that moment, you just can’t do anything more. And it looks like you made things worse, not better.

Does any of this sound familiar? You are not the only person who does this. I promise you. There are a lot of other people out there with houses full of stuff who really want to change things, but they struggle to find out what works. Dealing with clutter is not something you’ve got figured out, but you’re still tryisomething you can donate. If you find a donation item, put it into a small bag and move it near where you leave the house.

Once you’ve cleared the garbage, recycling, and donating, you may have some space clear. WOOOOHOOOO!!!! Seriously, this is a BIG deal!!! Let’s also toss any unhelpful thoughts and replace them with some helpful thoughts. My favorite thought is “I love myself”. I say it a lot. You can also say “I did it!” “I found the table!” “I’m doing great!” or anything else that is true, personal, and positive. We are going to make the biggest deal out of your little spot, and it’s the right thing to do because it helps to retrain you and your brain that you can declutter your space.

Most of the things left in your little spot will fall into three more categories (remember, you’ve already done some garbage, recycling, and donating): paperwork, wrong room, and keep. Get a small bag or box for your paperwork. Shuffle through it, only looking for really important very urgent papers. If you find anything, stick it to the fridge or a cupboard you often open, or somewhere it won’t get buried. If the papers are not urgent, but you want to keep them, put them in a small bag or box and label it ‘Papers—not urgent’.

‘Wrong room’ things are anything you want to keep that doesn’t belong in the room you’re working in. ng. That makes you amazing!! But it doesn’t help with the clutter, does it?

That’s why starting small is a great strategy when you’ve got a lot of clutter to deal with. Pick one little area that you’d like to work on. Maybe one place setting, or the dash of your car, or a part of your bedside table. Somewhere where having a bit of a clear spot would be nice and noticeable to you. (This is really important! Don’t pick something anyone else has been nagging you about. This is for you and only you.)

Start this little job by looking for the easiest thing to remove. Usually, this is garbage or recycling. Grab any garbage and go put it in the garbage can. Do the same with the recycling. Next, look for If you need a break you can get up and take each of these things to the room they belong in (or as close as possible if the room is inaccessible). Or you can leave them in a different bag/box labeled ‘wrong room. It’s OK to work on a small spot and not have a solution for everything you find.

‘Keep’ is for things you find that belong in the room you’re in, but can’t get put away yet. So those also get put into a bag/box with a label. Decluttering is a journey, and you’re going to have things along the way that can’t get dealt with right away. This does not mean you failed! It means you are moving forward.

If you have some more things that are in your small spot, you get to add another category—IDK, which stands for ‘I Don’t Know’. Again, this is OK! You didn’t get a houseful of clutter by knowing where everything belongs, and you don’t need to know where everything belongs to start dealing with that clutter. The important thing here is that you create a small clear space that is just for you!

If you can, give this area a wipe to make it clean and shiny. And then take a few good cleansing breaths and tell yourself “I did it!” This is ALL about you, and all the positive feedback comes from you to you!!

OK, even if you feel like doing more, just hang on a bit. Give yourself a break and enjoy the strange feeling of success. You deserve it!! If you really want to do another spot later on today, go for it. But you can also feel really really good about what you’ve done. This is why it’s so amazing to start with something small. Because small is possible!

Is there somewhere small you can work at right now? Even if you feel tired, you can do something now and then celebrate! Start with garbage and recycling. Look for something to donate. Sort the rest into paperwork, wrong room, keep and IDK. And then enjoy your beautiful, small, clear success!

Carmen’s blog: the-declutter-coach.com


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You Might Be A Clutterer If:

 1. You feel overwhelmed by your clutter.

 2. You have tried to clean up or organize repeatedly, with no lasting results.

 3. You are ashamed to have guests over.

 4. It is harder to concentrate at home than in the outside world.

 5. You buy more of everything because “you never know when you’ll run out”.

 6. You have extra copies of books, software, clothing, tools, etc., because you can’t find what  you already own.

 7. Your partner expressed dismay about the way you live.

 8. You hang onto broken items because “They might come in handy”… or “I’ll fix it someday”.

 9. You feel like there’ll never be enough for you.

10. You believe that you don’t deserve any better than what you have.    


5 Comments on “Overwhelmed By Clutter?

  1. Hello,
    My husband is not quite a hoarder but he has accumulated a lot of stuff aka clutter over the 30 years that we’ve been married. I feel overwhelmed by my own clutter as well. Is there any support group for the partners of “clutterers”? Thanks, Pam

  2. You are welcome to attend, but
    Our group is for the Clutterer, themself,
    who are ready to change their life.

  3. Hi, my son is a clutterer having 6 out of the 10 symptoms listed. His work schedule conflicts with when the meetings are held as he works evenings. Are there other times when the the group meets? Or, do you know if there are other local groups preferably located in Contra Costa County?

  4. Hello – Do you provide any resources/recommendations to assist seniors with slowly de-cluttering their home? I have a mother in the Dublin area and am looking for resources to assist her – she is 81.

  5. Don’t know where to turn , where to go, paralyze s by fear of someone finding out. Have mice . Live in a town house.

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